I thought I'd continue my story as I am still on the journey of learning about myself and my hubby. We are now a little over 4 months into marriage and there are many things that I have learned about both of us in the past 4 months. I have found that we tend to balance each other out. For Example, I am more of an outgoing active person and my husband prefers his own space. We try to accommodate each other with our strengths and weaknesses.
I do admit that I miss the social aspect of living in the city, but like everything, I realize that its a period of adjustment that I have to get used to.
I have learned that sometimes the little things that my hubby does out of surprise, the really, kind caring things make me fall is love with him all over again.
I have also learned that we understand each other better than the average person because we are both cancer survivors and its hard to believe that we are both going on 4 years post treatment.
As for myself, I have learned that I am not a master chef, far from it. I honestly don't really like cooking as I find it to be more of a chore more than anything. I am so very happy when once in awhile my spouse will cook for us.
We don't have this grand notion of love and marriage but its not always this big, romantic thing that is all roses and no thorns. All relationships do have their ups and downs and the most important thing that you can learn is to communicate about things especially if there is something on your mind that bothers you. Keeping in inside to fester just does more harm than good.
Sometimes one does worry if they are doing things that make their partner happy, but then when you do have those times your spouse does something wonderful that makes you feel so loved and appreciated.
When I did get married, I had some friends that were skeptics that this marriage was going to last or that I was making a mistake. I know that its still early days in the marriage but I think those friends were wrong. I feel that there was a divine reason that we were brought together. Call it fate or kismet or divine intervention but I know in my heart of hearts that there was some reason that we have been brought together. I am sure one of things is to learn from each other and balance each other out where our weaknesses lie.
Thats not to say that things are perfect all the time but we are learning to work through things. Sometimes I am still leaning how to be open about what is on my mind because its not always easy to say what is on our minds and in our hearts.
Love and marriage is not like a romantic movie. Those movies concentrate more on the romance and none of the sustenance of the relationship. Its just shows the good parts so people can just enjoy the romance. Thats not to say that the relationship of ours lacks any romance, its just that we have to find a good way to incorporate it into our daily lives which is not always an easy task with everything that has to be taken care of in a day. Sometimes it gets put on the back burner for a bit but when its ignited again, its just wonderful and you feel like you are on top of the world. You just have to continue at working to keeping the romance alive in small ways, they don't always have to be grand gestures.
I am not an expert by any means on love and romance and marriage but I do my part to keep things real and happy and I guess thats all that you can really ask for.
